Negative Parenting Test
Are you harboring hurt inside yourself from the way your parents treated you? Does it seem inconsequential that your mother didn't hug you enough when you were a child? Is it really such a big deal that your father wasn't around as much as you wanted him to be? Uh, duh. Of course it is! Parental emotional neglect and abuse can have a devastating effect on how we form our own families.
This quiz is designed to help you figure out if your parenting style is negative. Answer each question and see if you score high on the negative test.
- [tend]When I am upset, my parent(s), gives me time to calm down and then talks to me about the problem in a calm voiceFalseTrue
- [tend]When I make a mistake, my parent(s) ignores the problem and tries to distract me with an activity or gameFalseTrue
- [tend]I feel like my parents don't care about me or love me anymoreFalseTrue
- [tend]My parents don't let me play outside because they're afraid of me getting hurtFalseTrue
- [tend]When I do something wrong, my parent(s) usually punish me by making me clean up my room or doing choresFalseTrue
- [tend]My parents are always telling me what to do and never let me do anything for myselfFalseTrue
- [tend]My parents are always telling me what not to do, but they never tell me what I should be doing insteadFalseTrue
- [tend]My mom always comes home late from work and leaves early in the morning, so she never gets to spend time with meFalseTrue
- [tend]My parents have never taught me how to do anything on my own, so I feel like I am always dependent on them for everything in my lifeFalseTrue
- [tend]When I do something wrong, my parent(s) reaction is to punish me by taking away privileges or grounding me from activities for a period of timeFalseTrue
- [tend]My parent(s) always comes to my school events, but he never helps with my homeworkFalseTrue
- [tend]They get mad when they see you doing something they don't like, but they don't explain why it's wrong or how you should have done it insteadFalseTrue
- [tend]I don't feel like my parents listen to me when I talk to themFalseTrue
- [tend]My parents don't let me do things that they did when they were youngFalseTrue
- [tend]My parents are there for me when I need them mostFalseTrue
- [tend]My parents never give me any money to spend on myself. They just give it all away to charity, so I can't buy anything I wantFalseTrue
- [tend]My parents never let me go out with friends because they think it's too dangerous for kids to be around each other without adult supervisionFalseTrue
- [tend]No matter what I do, my mommy always gets mad at me when she gets home from workFalseTrue
- [tend]When I'm mad at my parents, I try to make them feel guilty by making a big deal out of something smallFalseTrue
- [tend]When I'm mad at my parents, I try to get back at them by refusing to do what they ask or saying no when they ask if you want somethingFalseTrue
- [tend] My parents are always yelling at me and threatening meFalseTrue
- [tend]My parents make me feel guilty for everything I do, even when it's not my faultFalseTrue
- [tend]My parents always tell me that I'm bad and will never amount to anything in lifeFalseTrue
- [tend]I can never trust my parents because they lie all the time to make themselves look better than meFalseTrue
- [tend]My parents argue with me about everything, and that gets on my nervesFalseTrue
- [tend]Have you ever been disappointed in the way your parents have raised you?NoYes
- [tend]Have you ever felt like your parents' expectations of you were unfair?NoYes
- [tend]Do you feel like your parents have failed to teach you important life lessons?NoYes
- [tend]How many times have you lied to your parents in order to get out of trouble?Never10+ Times
- [tend]Do you think that if you were given more freedom, it would help improve the relationship between yourself and your parents?NoYes
- [tend]When I have a bad day at school, my parent(s) help me figure out what went wrong and how to fix itFalseTrue
- [tend]Your mom always tells you to clean up after yourself. She's right, but she's also a bit harsh about itFalseTrue
- [tend]Your dad is always telling you to be more polite. He could be right, but he needs to be more patient and kind when he says things like thatFalseTrue
- [tend]Your mom thinks it's important for you to have hobbies and interests outside of schoolwork but sometimes she pushes too hard and tries to force you into something you're not interested in just because she wants you to do itFalseTrue
- [tend]Mom is always telling you to pick up your mess, and she's completely right. She doesn't need to scream at you and get in your face, thoughFalseTrue
- [tend]My parent is not very good at helping me with my mannersFalseTrue
- [tend]My parent is not very good at helping me with my social lifeFalseTrue
- [tend]My parent is not very good at helping me with my health and wellnessFalseTrue
- [tend]My parents talk about me behind my back and share things with others that should only be between us (like my favorite color or what I told them about a problem)FalseTrue
- [tend]My parents are constantly yelling at me. They don't listen to me, and they always make me feel like I'm wrongFalseTrue
- [tend]My parents are always telling me what to do, and they don't let me decide for myselfFalseTrue
- [tend]I take deep breaths and count to 10 before saying anythingFalseTrue