Negative Parenting Test

Are you harboring hurt inside yourself from the way your parents treated you? Does it seem inconsequential that your mother didn't hug you enough when you were a child? Is it really such a big deal that your father wasn't around as much as you wanted him to be? Uh, duh. Of course it is! Parental emotional neglect and abuse can have a devastating effect on how we form our own families.

This quiz is designed to help you figure out if your parenting style is negative. Answer each question and see if you score high on the negative test.

[tend]When I am upset, my parent(s), gives me time to calm down and then talks to me about the problem in a calm voice
False
True
[tend]When I make a mistake, my parent(s) ignores the problem and tries to distract me with an activity or game
False
True
[tend]I feel like my parents don't care about me or love me anymore
False
True
[tend]My parents don't let me play outside because they're afraid of me getting hurt
False
True
[tend]When I do something wrong, my parent(s) usually punish me by making me clean up my room or doing chores
False
True
[tend]My parents are always telling me what to do and never let me do anything for myself
False
True
[tend]My parents are always telling me what not to do, but they never tell me what I should be doing instead
False
True
[tend]My mom always comes home late from work and leaves early in the morning, so she never gets to spend time with me
False
True
[tend]My parents have never taught me how to do anything on my own, so I feel like I am always dependent on them for everything in my life
False
True
[tend]When I do something wrong, my parent(s) reaction is to punish me by taking away privileges or grounding me from activities for a period of time
False
True
[tend]My parent(s) always comes to my school events, but he never helps with my homework
False
True
[tend]They get mad when they see you doing something they don't like, but they don't explain why it's wrong or how you should have done it instead
False
True
[tend]I don't feel like my parents listen to me when I talk to them
False
True
[tend]My parents don't let me do things that they did when they were young
False
True
[tend]My parents are there for me when I need them most
False
True
[tend]My parents never give me any money to spend on myself. They just give it all away to charity, so I can't buy anything I want
False
True
[tend]My parents never let me go out with friends because they think it's too dangerous for kids to be around each other without adult supervision
False
True
[tend]No matter what I do, my mommy always gets mad at me when she gets home from work
False
True
[tend]When I'm mad at my parents, I try to make them feel guilty by making a big deal out of something small
False
True
[tend]When I'm mad at my parents, I try to get back at them by refusing to do what they ask or saying no when they ask if you want something
False
True
[tend] My parents are always yelling at me and threatening me
False
True
[tend]My parents make me feel guilty for everything I do, even when it's not my fault
False
True
[tend]My parents always tell me that I'm bad and will never amount to anything in life
False
True
[tend]I can never trust my parents because they lie all the time to make themselves look better than me
False
True
[tend]My parents argue with me about everything, and that gets on my nerves
False
True
[tend]Have you ever been disappointed in the way your parents have raised you?
No
Yes
[tend]Have you ever felt like your parents' expectations of you were unfair?
No
Yes
[tend]Do you feel like your parents have failed to teach you important life lessons?
No
Yes
[tend]How many times have you lied to your parents in order to get out of trouble?
Never
10+ Times
[tend]Do you think that if you were given more freedom, it would help improve the relationship between yourself and your parents?
No
Yes
[tend]When I have a bad day at school, my parent(s) help me figure out what went wrong and how to fix it
False
True
[tend]Your mom always tells you to clean up after yourself. She's right, but she's also a bit harsh about it
False
True
[tend]Your dad is always telling you to be more polite. He could be right, but he needs to be more patient and kind when he says things like that
False
True
[tend]Your mom thinks it's important for you to have hobbies and interests outside of schoolwork but sometimes she pushes too hard and tries to force you into something you're not interested in just because she wants you to do it
False
True
[tend]Mom is always telling you to pick up your mess, and she's completely right. She doesn't need to scream at you and get in your face, though
False
True
[tend]My parent is not very good at helping me with my manners
False
True
[tend]My parent is not very good at helping me with my social life
False
True
[tend]My parent is not very good at helping me with my health and wellness
False
True
[tend]My parents talk about me behind my back and share things with others that should only be between us (like my favorite color or what I told them about a problem)
False
True
[tend]My parents are constantly yelling at me. They don't listen to me, and they always make me feel like I'm wrong
False
True
[tend]My parents are always telling me what to do, and they don't let me decide for myself
False
True
[tend]I take deep breaths and count to 10 before saying anything
False
True

What is the Negative Parenting Test?

The Negative Parenting Test is a tool used to assess how your parents have treated you. It's a simple test that asks questions about how your parents have acted towards you, and then assigns a score based on the results. The test is designed to help you understand how your parents have affected your life and how they continue to affect it now.

Can I use the Negative Parenting Test to evaluate any parents?

The Negative Parenting Test (NPT) is a tool that measures how much negativity and criticism the parents of a child tend to use in their interactions. It can be used to evaluate any parent, but it's particularly useful in situations where there are concerns about parenting practices or the quality of the parent-child relationship.

The NPT can be administered in one of two ways: either by asking questions about your own parenting style or by having someone else observe your interactions with your child (such as an educator).

Detailed Explanation of Each Negative Parenting Personality Trait

Deprivation

Deprivation is a parenting style that involves limiting children's experience and freedom. This style can be very harmful to a child, as it does not allow the child to experience the world around them in a positive way. It also takes away their sense of personal agency, making them feel helpless and unable to make decisions for themselves or act independently.

This type of parenting is often seen in families with authoritarian parents who believe they are doing what is best for their children by restricting their freedoms. These types of parents tend to be very controlling and do not allow their children any room for autonomy or self-determination.

In these cases, children may be deprived of opportunities for play, creativity, exploration and education by being forced to remain at home instead of going outside to play or attend school with other kids their age. They may also be denied access to technology such as computers or smartphones which would allow them better access to information about things like science or history than they would otherwise get from books alone (or even just TV shows).

Deprivation can also come from not having access to something that would make you feel good or fulfill your needs or desires. For example, if someone has been deprived of love and attention since childhood, they may struggle to connect with other people as adults because they never learned how to receive love and attention from others.

Over-protection

Over-protection refers to a person's tendency to be overprotective of others. Over-protection is considered a negative personality trait because it can prevent those who are being overprotected from learning the skills they need to succeed in life and make their own decisions.

Over-protectiveness refers to the tendency to be excessively concerned with the well-being of others. It is a common parenting style and may be seen in both parents as well as children. However, it is most commonly associated with mothers, who often act as caretakers for their children.

Over-protectiveness occurs when a parent or guardian feels that they must take on all responsibility for another person's safety and well-being. They may view themselves as responsible for the happiness and success of their children, even into adulthood. This can lead them to make decisions for their child that they should not be making themselves because it could cause them harm or cause them problems later in life.

For example, if your parent always tells you what clothes to wear because they think they know what looks better on you than you do yourself then they are probably overprotective (and maybe disinterested in your preferences).

In general, over-protection causes children not only to be unable to handle stress later in life but also makes it harder for them to learn how to solve problems on their own because they've never had the chance.

Punishing

Punishing is a negative parenting style. It involves the use of negative consequences, such as time-out, to teach children that certain behaviors are not acceptable. This style of parenting is often used when parents are frustrated and feel they have no other options.

Punishing can be helpful if it is used sparingly and in small doses. However, it can also be harmful to children if they feel like they are constantly being punished for minor infractions or mistakes. This can cause children to feel stressed and anxious, which can lead to more behavioral problems down the road.

When people are punished by their parents, they may feel angry or upset because they feel like they have been treated unfairly. They might feel like their parent doesn't care about them anymore or that the parent doesn't trust them anymore either! This can make children feel sad or lonely too! Punishing can also hurt children's self esteem because it makes them think that they are bad people or that there's something wrong with them if their parents keep on doing this kind of thing over and over again.

Over-control

Over-control is a term that describes a parenting style where the parent is constantly trying to control their child's behavior. It's more than just setting boundaries, it's about keeping children on guard at all times and making sure they aren't doing anything wrong.

Parents who use this style of parenting tend to feel like they need to be involved in every aspect of their children's lives—from what they do after school, to how they spend their weekends, and even what they wear. They often want to know where their children are going, why they are going there, and who they're with.

They tend to be very judgmental of others' actions, especially when those actions don't meet their standards of how things should be done. They are also likely to assume responsibility for problems that arise instead of blaming others or waiting for someone else to fix them (even though they might complain about it).

Over-control may seem like a good idea at first because it helps keep kids safe and makes them feel secure, but in reality it can have negative effects on children's development as well as their self-esteem. The constant monitoring can lead kids to feel like they can never make mistakes or experiment with new ideas without being reprimanded by their parents.

Rejection

Rejection is the act of turning down, refusing to accept or acknowledge something. Rejection is often experienced as a result of not being chosen or accepted by others. The feeling of rejection can be painful and lead to feelings of shame and low self-esteem. When someone's self-worth is based on how much they are accepted by others, rejection can be devastating.

Rejection is a natural part of life; everyone experiences it at some point in their lives. But if you have been rejected repeatedly or if you have experienced a series of rejections in your life, then it could be affecting your self-esteem and sense of worthiness.

If you have been rejected by friends, family members or romantic partners, it may be time to take a step back from those relationships so that you can heal from the pain that rejection has caused you. Often people who experience this type of rejection will hold onto the hope that things will change one day and that they'll get back together with their loved ones again someday soon.

Overindulgence

Overindulgence is a parenting style that involves giving children everything they want, as well as providing them with too much protection. It's a type of permissive parenting, and it can be harmful to kids because it teaches them that they don't have to work hard or do anything for themselves.

Overindulgent parents aren't strict enough to provide structure and boundaries, but they're not permissive either—they're just very indulgent. When it comes to parenting styles, this one is on the extreme end of the spectrum.

In many cases, overindulgent parents are also neglectful. They may not be around as much as their kids need them to be, or they may not know how to set boundaries for their kids when they do spend time together.

Overindulgent parents are often guilty of spoiling their kids too much and giving in to their demands without considering the consequences of doing so. This can lead kids down a path towards narcissism, where they feel entitled and superior over other people because they have been spoiled by their parents all their lives.